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October 30, 2009 / 0 COMMENTS

Celebrating Your Independence With Breakup Cake

There is a moment in the movie Under the Tuscan Sun in which a friend of the recently-divorced protagonist tells her that since marriages begin with cake and champagne, they ought to end in the same way.  This is clearly becoming a very popular thought as divorce parties, and now breakup parties, are becoming more and more popular.

One of the main functions of having a marriage ceremony (and party) is to create a time and space in which the people who care about the couple can demonstrate their support of the union and confer their supportive energy and intentions on the couple.  Many ceremonies involve actually asking the attendees to pledge their support.  A newly single person could certainly use the same kind of support and positive intentions from the people who care about them.  It's also a way of celebrating the new freedom and opportunities that are now available because of the transition the person is going through.

And nothing says "celebration" and marks a special occassion quite like a cake. Caterers have risen to the challenge with lots of interesting takes on the splitting-up theme.

A very highly publicized and notorious example is shown below, from model / actress / centerfold / reality TV personality Shanna Moakler's divorce party in Las Vegas earlier this year

Okay, I'm all about having fun and celebrating your independence, even with some dark humor thrown in, but this is taking it a bit far, no?  Does your ex really have to bleed for you to have closure? I think we can take a slightly higher road here.

This second one is funny, very creatively rendered and not too scary or violent. It's also downright unappetizing.  When enjoying a delicious dessert I don't usually like to see depictions of garbage.


If  I were designing a divorce/breakup cake myself I would consider going with a "Bon Voyage" theme depicting the guest of honor triumphant and about to embark on an exciting adventure, with something like this as inspiration:

Just try not to let the cake turn the celebration into a pity party, as this funny-yet-pathetic confection most likely did for this dude...

Stay sweet,

The BreakUp Coach

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